Why They Did It

The lingering question that haunts almost everyone recovering from infidelity: Why? The unfaithful spouse may not know why just yet, but use these articles to gain insight and, eventually, freedom from the uncertainty.

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Video icon Q&A How Do I See the Wayward as a Good Person Who Made a Serious Mistake?
Video icon Q&A How Will She Ever Know Why She Really Had the Affair?
Video icon Q&A Why Isn't More Time Spent Discovering Why They Had an Affair?
Video icon How Does My Spouse Escape the Neurochemical Process of Limerence?
Video icon Q&A How Can You Love Your Partner and Still Have an Affair?
Video icon Q&A Is My Spouse's Financial Infidelity Linked to Their Affair or Is It a Separate Issue?
Video icon Q&A Why Would Someone Put Such a Cherished Relationship at Risk with an Affair?
Video icon Q&A How Could He So Easily Forget the Pain He Caused?
Video icon Surviving Infidelity: Three Types of Reconciliation
Video icon Q&A What Makes Someone Vulnerable to a Previous Romantic Partner?
Video icon Q&A How Can the Unfaithful Spouse Love Me and Have an Affair Partner?
Video icon Moving from Self-Hatred to Self-Compassion
Video icon How Do I Know I Am Not “Plan B?”
Video icon The Myth of Greener Grass in Marriage
Video icon Q&A How Could He Possibly Call What He Had with the Affair Partner ‘Love'?
Text icon Nine Signs of an Emotional Affair
Video icon Q&A Who Falls in True Love with an Affair Partner?
Video icon Q&A How Much of This Developmental Trauma Contributed to Me Having an Affair in Adulthood?
Video icon Q&A Does It Matter Who Ended the Affair?
Text icon Why Did They Choose the Affair Partner?
Text icon How to Prevent Relapse After Infidelity
Video icon Were They Thinking of Me?
Text icon Common Justifications for Why Women Cheat
Video icon Q&A Did My Wife Need to Justify Her Behavior in Cheating on Me?
Video icon Reclaiming Dignity and Worth as a Woman with Laurie Bryson, M.A. & LPC
Text icon Pimping Tenderness & Grooming Behaviors
Video icon Q&A Will I Ever Accept His Reasons for the Affairs?
Video icon 2 Things You Must Understand About the Disclosure Process
Video icon A Toxic Mix: Gaslighting and Infidelity
Video icon Q&A How Do I Address Her Readiness to Engage With Someone So Despicable Versus Her Resistance to Reconnect Intimately With Me?
Video icon Q&A How Much Does Alcohol Play a Factor in a One Night Stand?
Video icon Q&A How Do We Know if Our Cheating Spouse Is a Sex Addict, Has a Personality Disorder, or if It Is Something Else?
Video icon The Affair Causing Habit
Video icon The Truth About Lying
Video icon Q&A How Can Someone Love You Even During the Betrayal?
Video icon Understanding the Mind of the Unfaithful: Minimizing the Affair
Text icon Why Did My Spouse Cheat? A Crucial Question In Healing After An Affair
Video icon Q&A Can My Wife Be In Limerence Twice with the Same Man or Is It Love?
Video icon Q&A How Do We Navigate Seeing the Emotional Part of the Affair Differently?
Text icon Recovering From Infidelity Pain: Are They Lying About ‘Why’?
Video icon Q&A Why Would He Go Back to the Same Person He Thinks Is So Nasty?
Video icon Q&A How Did ADHD and Other Factors Like Depression and Anxiety Contribute to My Affairs?
Video icon Q&A Can You Elaborate More on Type Four Affairs?
Video icon Q&A Is It My Fault That They Did What They Did?
Video icon Q&A Do You Think My Spouse Is Being Honest about Why They Stayed in the Affair for So Long?
Text icon Why People Cheat: Were They Predisposed to Cheat (Part 2)
Text icon Why People Cheat: The Fog of Self-Deception (Part 1)
Video icon Q&A Do We Have a Chance at Recovery If He Is Unable to Understand How Trauma Can Impact Me?
Video icon Q&A Why Does He Tell Me I Am the Only Girl and Will Be Faithful When He Continues to See Other Women?
Video icon Q&A Can You Further Explain How to Determine and Address What Could Have Led to My Husband’s Affair?