Why They Did It

The lingering question that haunts almost everyone recovering from infidelity: Why? The unfaithful spouse may not know why just yet, but use these articles to gain insight and, eventually, freedom from the uncertainty.

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Text icon How Could You? Part V - The Secrecy Factor
Text icon How Could You? Part IV - Doublespeak and Distorted Comparisons
Text icon How Could You? Part VI - Dehumanization and Blame
Text icon How Could You? Part III: Moral Justification
Video icon Q&A Does This Type of Repeated Behavior Indicate an Addiction or Wanting Both the Marriage and the Affair, or Both?
Text icon How Could You? Part II: The Thought Processes That Lead to Betrayal
Text icon How Could You? Part I: Why We Commit Betrayal With Infidelity
Video icon Q&A How Do I Explain That My Childhood Trauma Triggered My Actions and Doesn’t Remove My Accountability Even If I Did Disassociate?
Text icon Ever Wonder Why Men Cheat and Why Women Cheat?
Video icon Q&A If He Was Having an Affair to Get Some Sort of Thrill or Feeling from That Person Why Did He Constantly Want My Attention Too?
Video icon Q&A Could It Be Limerance When the Affair Partner Is an Old Flame?
Video icon Q&A Is It Possible There Is a 7th Type of Affair?
Video icon Q&A How Could He Go from One Affair to Another?
Video icon Q&A If My Spouse Felt So Much Guilt and Shame the First Time, Why Did They Do It Again?
Video icon Q&A Why Was It Easy for Him to Be Nice to Everyone but Me, His Wife?
Video icon Q&A How Can My Wife Believe That She Fulfilled Her Fantasy If She Also Says That’s Not Who She Truly Is?
Video icon Q&A How Can I Help My Husband Understand the Importance of Knowing the ‘Why’ and Also How to Can I Help Him See That It’s Not an Excuse or Blaming Anything?
Text icon Why Did They Cheat? Part 4: The Problem With Addictions
Text icon Why Did They Cheat? Part 3: Do They Have an Addiction?
Text icon Why Did They Cheat? Part 2: Entrapped or Enchanted
Text icon Why Did They Cheat? Part 1:The Role of Oxytocin
Video icon Q&A Why Did My Husband Have Such a Seemingly Lame Affair?
Video icon Q&A Do Men Always Want to Have Sex with Other Women?
Video icon Q&A Why Would He Hire This Particular Escort?
Video icon Q&A Does Alcohol Really Play That Much of a Part in Infidelity?
Video icon Q&A How Could My Wife Be Having an Affair When We Were Trying to Get Pregnant?
Video icon Q&A Was He Hoping to Get Caught in an Effort to Have Me End the Marriage?
Video icon Q&A Could There Really Be Such a Thing as a Midlife Crisis Affair?
Video icon Q&A Could Postpartum Depression Lead to an Affair?
Video icon Q&A Is Being Immature or a Pastors Kid a Legitimate Reason for Making This Mistake?
Video icon Q&A Why Do I Still Feel like Its My Fault She Had a Affair? Is This Normal for Betrayed Men?
Video icon Q&A Is It Possible to Delude Oneself into Believing an Affair Wasn’t Emotional as a Means of Self Protection?
Video icon Q&A Did He Really Not Consider Me or His Children?
Video icon Q&A How Can I Know My Mate Didn't Just Prefer Sex With Someone Else?
Text icon Tweeting Or Cheating? Social Media Affairs And What To Do
Video icon Q&A Was This Limerence or Something More?
Video icon Q&A Is It Common for the Wayward Spouse to Not Know 'Why' This Far in Recovery?
Video icon Q&A What Attracts a Younger Man to an Older, Unattractive Woman?
Video icon Q&A Is There a Way to Determine the Difference between an Affair Being Motivated by Revenge as Opposed to the Wayward Spouse Justifying an Affair or Are They One in the Same?
Video icon Q&A How Can Any Person Not Know Why They Have Done Something?
Video icon Q&A How Is It Possible to Compartmentalize the Way My Husband Did?
Video icon Q&A Could His Early Experience Have Played a Part in His Affair and His Attitude Toward Sex Now?
Video icon Q&A If Our Marriage Was So Wonderful, Why Did He Have an Affair?
Video icon Q&A Is It Possible to Feel No Shame or Guilt?
Video icon Q&A How Could Childhood Sexual Abuse Lead My Husband to Have an Affair?
Video icon Q&A Is This Type of Acting Out Not Part of What We Call a Mid-life Crisis?
Video icon Q&A Was Her Behavior Justified?
Video icon Q&A Do Men Actually Not Engage Their Heart?
Video icon Q&A How Can a Straight Woman Have a Same-Sex Affair?
Video icon Q&A Can You Explain to Me Why They Felt the Need to Have Sex Given Their Anxiety?