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	Understanding the Phases of Recovery: Is this normal?	10/12/2026
	Infidelity + Life: When the Affair Isn’t Your Only Crisis	9/28/2026
	Reclaiming Your Power Through Intervention	9/16/2026
	How to Forgive When You Can't Forget	9/14/2026
	His Addiction, Her Affair: Healing When Both Are Betrayed	8/31/2026

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	Q&A Is Looking at Porn as Damaging as Having an Affair?	9/29/2026
	Q&A What Advice Do You Have for Celebrating Our Anniversary During Recovery?	9/29/2026
	Q&A How Do We Respond to Intrusive Thoughts Without Reinforcing Them?	9/29/2026
	Q&A How Do I Respond to Old Urges & Pathways Without Becoming Overly Vigilant?	9/29/2026
	Q&A How Can I Support My Betrayed Spouse?	9/29/2026

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Type	Title	Posted
	Your Brain on Porn and Understanding the Sex Addict	4/26/2023
	Q&A How Do You Recommend I Write My Closure Letter to the Affair Partner?	4/20/2023
	Q&A Is It Necessary for Him to Be Proactive or Should I Be Happy He’s Doing What I Ask of Him?	4/12/2023
	Q&A What If the Only Way I Can Heal Is without Horizontal Forgiveness?	4/12/2023
	Q&A How Do We Handle Workplace Triggers in Recovery?	4/12/2023
	Q&A Do You Think My Spouse Is Being Honest about Why They Stayed in the Affair for So Long?	4/12/2023
	Q&A What Is the Best Way for Us to Utilize EMS Online since We Have Both Been Unfaithful?	4/12/2023
	Q&A What Type of Affair Is This?	4/12/2023
	Q&A How Do I Cope with My Own Issues of Needing to Feel Understood by My Husband as the Wayward Spouse?	4/12/2023
	Q&A How Can Someone Who Has Become Such an Accomplished Liar Prove to the Betrayed Spouse That They Can Be Trusted?	4/12/2023
	Q&A How Do You Discern If a Person Is Truly Remorseful and Changing When They Relapse into Blaming the Betrayed?	4/12/2023
	Why People Cheat: Were They Predisposed to Cheat (Part 2)	4/12/2023
	Why People Cheat: The Fog of Self-Deception (Part 1)	4/05/2023
	Discovery: Part 4 - Goals for the Betrayed	3/29/2023
	Discovery: Part 3 - Guidelines for Discovery	3/22/2023
	Q&A Is It Possible for the Individual to Find Healing and Purpose Even If the Marriage Doesn’t Survive?	3/17/2023
	Q&A How Do We Handle a Paternity Test for a Child Born Years Ago?	3/17/2023
	Q&A Does My Husband’s Sexual Performance Indicate a Serious Issue?	3/17/2023
	Q&A Is My Lack of Emotion Normal or Am I Experiencing Something Much Worse?	3/17/2023
	Q&A How Do I Handle My Spouse’s Siblings?	3/17/2023
	Q&A Do We Have a Chance at Recovery If He Is Unable to Understand How Trauma Can Impact Me?	3/17/2023
	Q&A Why Does He Tell Me I Am the Only Girl and Will Be Faithful When He Continues to See Other Women?	3/17/2023
	Q&A Does My Mate Have a Sexual Addiction?	3/17/2023
	Q&A How Do I Approach This Polygraph without Feeling like My Marriage Is on the Line?	3/17/2023
	Discovery: Part 2 - Advice For The Wayward Spouse	3/15/2023
	Discovery: Part 1 - How to Handle Discovery	3/08/2023
	Q&A How Do Social Engagement and Our Nervous Systems Work Together?	3/02/2023
	Q&A How Can I Convince My Mate That I’m Not Talking to the Affair Partner?	3/02/2023
	Q&A What Action Do You Recommend If My Mates Behavior Doesn’t Change?	3/02/2023
	Healing from Infidelity: Going it alone	3/01/2023
	Q&A Do You Think There Is an Appropriate Methodology of Trying to Recall Some of This Using Hypnosis?	2/17/2023
	Q&A How Do We Handle Pregnancy So Close to Discovery?	2/17/2023
	Q&A How Can I Help My Spouse Acknowledge That Being in an Affair for So Long Has Affected the Way They See Themselves, Me, and Our Relationship Sexually?	2/17/2023
	Q&A How Long Typically Does It Take for a Betrayed Spouse to Forgive Their Unfaithful Spouse If the Unfaithful Spouse Is Doing the Work to Reconcile?	2/17/2023
	Q&A Can You Further Explain How to Determine and Address What Could Have Led to My Husband’s Affair?	2/17/2023
	How Could You? Part V - The Secrecy Factor	2/15/2023
	How Could You? Part IV - Doublespeak and Distorted Comparisons	2/08/2023
	How Could You? Part VI - Dehumanization and Blame	2/02/2023
	How Could You? Part III: Moral Justification	2/01/2023
	Q&A How Do We Navigate My Sister Being the Affair Partner?	1/26/2023
	Q&A How Do I Explain Disassociation and It’s Part in the Affair?	1/26/2023
	Q&A How Do I Handle My Husband’s Enjoyment of Porn?	1/26/2023
	Q&A Does This Type of Repeated Behavior Indicate an Addiction or Wanting Both the Marriage and the Affair, or Both?	1/26/2023
	How Could You? Part II: The Thought Processes That Lead to Betrayal	1/25/2023
	How Could You? Part I: Why We Commit Betrayal With Infidelity	1/18/2023
	Q&A How Do I Help My Husband Understand the Effects of Trauma While Also Letting Him See That It Is Not an Excuse for My Actions?	1/11/2023
	Q&A What Kind of Affair Is This?	1/11/2023
	Q&A How Do I Explain That My Childhood Trauma Triggered My Actions and Doesn’t Remove My Accountability Even If I Did Disassociate?	1/11/2023
	Q&A Will My Children Lose Respect for Me If I Reconcile?	1/11/2023
	Q&A How Do I Handle My Mate Weaponizing Information That I’m Sharing with Them?	1/11/2023