Handling Discovery
We call it “D-day” for a reason. These articles will help you understand the process of disclosure and how to keep the process safe.
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Text Six Types of Affairs: Emotional Affair 10/15/2025
Text How Do You Deal With Anger After Infidelity? 9/24/2025
Video Why Couples Fail After an Affair | Part 1 - Not Knowing What Happened 9/03/2025
Video Are Silence, Avoidance and Frustration Killing Your Recovery? 8/27/2025
Video Moving from Self-Hatred to Self-Compassion 7/09/2025
Video Movies & Infidelity: Why Hollywood Seems Obsessed with Sex & Secrets 6/18/2025
Video The Crucial Role of Disclosure in Healing (Survey) 6/11/2025
Video The Number One Question and How to Answer It 6/04/2025
Video The Brain’s Hidden Wound of Betrayal Trauma 5/28/2025
Video Who I Should (and Shouldn't) Tell About the Affair 5/21/2025
Video Q&A How Do I Stop Feeling Such Hatred Towards His Affair Partner? 5/14/2025
Video How Do I Know I Am Not “Plan B?” 5/14/2025
Video Q&A As the Betrayed, Is It Wise to Seek Closure with the Affair Partner? 4/23/2025
Video Deciding to Stay: Practical Ways to Rebuild Safety 4/23/2025
Video Q&A Can You Shed Light on Pass/Fail Outcomes and Eye-Scan Polygraph Tests? 4/01/2025
Text Revenge: Responding to an Affair 3/19/2025
Text Am I Who They Want? 2/25/2025
Video Q&A Does It Matter Who Ended the Affair? 2/25/2025
Video Why the Wayward Spouse Doesn’t Want to Talk About the Affair 2/12/2025
Video Q&A How Do I Tell the Wayward Spouse I Need More Discussion to Heal and Process? 2/11/2025
Text How To Survive an Affair: How Much Should I Share with My Spouse? 1/29/2025
Video Q&A How Detailed Should the Disclosure Be for a 7-Year Emotional Affair With a Coworker? 1/08/2025
Video Q&A Do You Think I Should Reach Out to Affair Partner’s Wife and Disclose the Affair? 1/08/2025
Video Parenting Through Infidelity: A Father/Daughter Perspective 12/26/2024
Video Q&A Will She Ever Tell the Truth Without Being Backed Into a Corner? 11/26/2024
Video Mistakes Families Make After an Affair 11/13/2024
Video Q&A How Do I Replace What I Feel With What I Know, if I Don’t Know What the Truth Is? 9/18/2024
Video Q&A How Do I Get Past or Heal From the Hurtful Things My Husband Said About Me to His Affair Partners? 8/20/2024
Video Q&A Would Viewing Surveillance Footage of My Husband’s Affair Be Helpful? 8/14/2024
Video Q&A What Advice Do You Have for Polygraphs, Anxiety Induced False Positives, and Full Disclosure During Recovery? 7/26/2024
Text Why This Hurts So Much... 7/17/2024
Video Q&A Do I Have to Take a Polygraph? 7/10/2024
Video Q&A How Can We Reconnect if I Don’t Know What Happened? 7/10/2024
Video Q&A How Do I Respond When the Betrayed Ridicules, Shames, and Slanders Me for What I Have Done? 6/13/2024
Video Really Hard Times Will Not Last 6/12/2024
Video 2 Things You Must Understand About the Disclosure Process 6/05/2024
Video Help With Incessant Triggers and Reminders 5/29/2024
Video A Toxic Mix: Gaslighting and Infidelity 5/15/2024
Video Q&A How Do I Address Her Readiness to Engage With Someone So Despicable Versus Her Resistance to Reconnect Intimately With Me? 5/07/2024
Video Creating Healing Spaces 5/01/2024
Video Q&A How Do I Cope With the Resurgence of Past Traumas Triggered by Such Betrayal? 4/25/2024
Video The Truth About Lying 3/27/2024
Video Q&A Why Does My Husband Continue to Lie When I’ve Been a Safe Place for Him Since I Returned? 3/19/2024
Video Regulating Our Stress Response During Recovery 3/13/2024
Video Q&A What Do I Do with an Unfaithful Spouse Who Will Not Provide Me with Full Disclosure? 2/28/2024
Video Manifestation of Shame Part 1: The Unfaithful 2/21/2024
Video Understanding the Mind of the Unfaithful: Minimizing the Affair 2/14/2024
Video Q&A If a Person Is Taking Medications and Has Gone Thru 6 Rounds of Chemo before Taking a Polygraph, Could This Give a False Reading? 1/09/2024
Video Common Mistakes Made When Recovering from Infidelity 12/27/2023
Text Hope For Healing Excerpt: How Does The Unfaithful Make Amends? 12/12/2023

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