Free Resources These full articles will give you an example of what to expect from the full version of the Recovery Library. The rest of the categories on the left contain small previews of resources from the full Recovery Library. Must Reads more less 20 Most Common Mistakes of the Hurt Spouse How Could You? Part I: Why We Commit Betrayal With Infidelity Pimping Tenderness & Grooming Behaviors How Could You? Part IV - Doublespeak and Distorted Comparisons The 2 Stages of Pain The Myth of the Greener Grass: Where Are You Investing? Rebuilding Trust After An Affair Recovery Timeline Why Did My Spouse Cheat? Telling Your Children After the Affair Doesn’t Always Turn Out As Expected How do you respond to blackmail? Part II Ending an Affair: Lock the Door Part 1 Bedside Forgiveness: When Death Coincides With Infidelity Untransformed Pain will be Transmitted Q&A How Can I Begin to Heal Our Relationship? Dealing with Infidelity: How to Get You Mate to Cooperate (Without Being Controlling) How to Survive Infidelity The Problem with Forgiveness We Started Well, but... Free Resources Type Title Posted Revenge: Responding to an Affair 4/15/2020 Am I Who They Want? 4/8/2020 Were They Thinking of Me? 4/1/2020 Hope During the COVID-19 Crisis ...and our favorite memes 3/30/2020 The Fantasyland of an Affair 3/25/2020 Why Couples Fail After an Affair: Part 4 - Not Grieving the Loss 3/18/2020 Why Couples Fail After an Affair: Part 3 - Hiding in Denial 3/11/2020 Why Couples Fail After an Affair: Part 2 - Not Getting It 3/4/2020 Why Couples Fail After an Affair: Part 1 - Not Knowing What Happened 2/26/2020 Lessons Learned 2/19/2020 Healing from Infidelity: Going it alone 2/12/2020 How Could You? Part VI - Dehumanization and Blame 2/5/2020 How Could You? Part V - The Secrecy Factor 1/29/2020 How Could You? Part IV - Doublespeak and Distorted Comparisons 1/22/2020 How Could You? Part III: Moral Justification 1/15/2020 How Could You? Part II: The Thought Processes That Lead to Betrayal 1/7/2020 How Could You? Part I: Why We Commit Betrayal With Infidelity 1/1/2020 How Do I Forget the Affair Partner? 12/11/2019 31 Reasons to Stop an Affair: Part 3 12/4/2019 31 Reasons to Stop an Affair: Part 2 11/26/2019 31 Reasons to Stop an Affair: Part 1 11/20/2019 Are You Forgivable? Part 3: Stupid Apologies 11/13/2019 Are You Forgivable? Part 2: 7 Myths Undermining Forgiveness 11/6/2019 Are You Forgivable? Part 1: Self Assessment 10/30/2019 Trauma from Infidelity: An Interview with a Specialist 10/23/2019 Social Shame Survey Results: What We Learned from Ashley Madison 10/16/2019 What It Takes To Survive an Affair: 3 Must Have Components 10/9/2019 Anger: Its 6 Roots 10/2/2019 Why Did They Choose the Affair Partner? 9/25/2019 Forgiveness: A Letter to My Younger Self 9/18/2019 Common Justifications for Why Women Cheat 9/11/2019 Affair Partners: Eight Reasons Not to Confront Them 9/4/2019 The Proper Use of Boundaries - Creating Space for Healing and Change 8/28/2019 Healing After Infidelity: What Doesn't Work. 8/21/2019 How to Find Answers 8/14/2019 Trauma and Infidelity 8/7/2019 Stuck? Three Methods to Get Moving 7/31/2019 Lies We Believe About Our Spouse 7/24/2019 Is There Hope After Infidelity? 7/17/2019 Hope Rising 2019: Conference for Betrayed Spouses 7/9/2019 What is Healing? 7/3/2019 Expectations of Empathy: A Betrayed Spouse’s Journey 6/26/2019 The Antidote for Shame: Understanding the Unfaithful 6/19/2019 A Betrayed Spouse’s Journey: Rewriting the Past 6/12/2019 Are They Lying About "Why?" 6/5/2019 How to Get Your Mate to Cooperate (Without Being Controlling) 5/29/2019 The Paralysis of Ambivalence: Part 2 5/22/2019 The Paralysis of Ambivalence: Part 1 5/15/2019 Social Shame: Four Ways to Stay In It 5/8/2019 Social Shame: Surviving Infidelity Isn’t Enough 5/1/2019 previous <12345> next