Safety in Recovery

The hallmark of any healthy recovery is safety. Both spouses have to feel safe in order to rebuild a strong, new marriage from the ashes of the old one. Learn how to make your mate feel safe and why it is so important that you do.

1103 Resources
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Video icon Q&A How Do I Respond to the Betrayed’s Triggers When It’s Affecting My Mental Health Now?
Video icon Q&A What Do I Do If My Spouse Works with Their Affair Partner?
Video icon Q&A How Do You Make Your Partner Feel Understood, Trusted, like They Matter, and That It’s Ok to Make Mistakes, Without Enabling Bad Behavior?
Text icon Are You Vulnerable to an Affair? Part II: Marital Vulnerability
Video icon Q&A How Do I Continue Supporting Her While Taking Care of My Heart and Mental Health?
Video icon Q&A Is It OK for the Wayward Spouse to Keep in Touch with Affair Partners from the past That Happened Years before Us?
Video icon Q&A How Do I Move Forward Knowing That He Already Has The Mindset That This Could Happen Again?
Video icon Q&A How Do We Move Forward after Several Relapses?
Video icon Q&A How Should I Handle My Spouse Threatening to Harm Me?
Video icon Q&A How Should I as a Wayward Spouse Approach My Spouse’s Continual Desire for Reassurance?
Video icon Q&A How Do I Emotionally Connect with Someone Who Treats Me This Way?
Video icon Q&A How Long Should I Accept and Validate His Exaggerated Reactions as a Result of My Previously Reckless Behaviors?
Video icon Q&A Do You Agree It’s Necessary to Re-Establish No Contact?
Video icon Q&A Should a Wayward Spouse Be Allowed to Have Friends of the Opposite Gender?
Video icon Q&A How Can We Set Boundaries If They Keep Being Disregarded and Violated?
Video icon Q&A How Much Should I Allow My Hurt Spouse to Vent and Control Conversations?
Video icon Q&A How Do I Deal With This When I Cannot Reasonably Ask Her to Quit Working nor Can I Check In Frequently to Make Sure It's Not Happening Again?
Video icon Q&A How Do I Handle Other Counselor’s ‘Okaying’ My Husband’s Continuation of His Rock-Concert Gigs?
Video icon Q&A Should I Tell the Affair Partner’s Wife about the Affair?
Video icon Q&A How Do My Spouse and I Get On the Same Level When It Comes to Appropriate Communication to His Affair Partner about Their Daughter?
Video icon Q&A Is Location-Sharing and Access to Phones Recommended?
Video icon Q&A How Can I Stop the Feeling That I Constantly Need to Check on My Wayward Spouse for Safety?
Video icon Q&A How Best Do I Ask for This Information So That He Understands the Level of Transparency I Need to Feel Safe?
Video icon Q&A How Do I Deal With the Physical Distance between Me and My Husband during Recovery?
Video icon Q&A When My Mate Floods, Why Do I Get Distressed In Turn?
Video icon Q&A What Are the Best Boundaries to Make When My Husband and I Are Having a Discussion about My Healing and He Starts to Get Really Angry?
Video icon Q&A Should I Be Considering Any Restrictions on Her Access to Our Children If She Continues to Act Out?
Video icon Q&A How Do I Create a Safe Boundary for Myself While Showing Him Grace and Not Reject His Desire to Open up to Me and Reconnect?
Video icon Q&A Are There Any Tips on How to Handle Someone Who Is Not Displaying Remorse, Is Full Of Anger and Pain, And Deeply Depressed?
Video icon Q&A I Want Proof That His Affair Partner Has Been Contacted and Told That It Is 100% Over and He Will Never Contact Her Again. How Do I Go About This?
Video icon Q&A How Do I Love Her through Her Controlling Issues While Still Maintaining My Sanity?
Video icon Q&A Is It Wrong to Expect My Husband to Stop Contact with an Affair Partner Who Is Close to the Family and My Best Friend?
Video icon Q&A What Are Your Thoughts about a Post Infidelity Contract?
Video icon Q&A How on Earth Do I Enforce Boundaries during This Time without Pushing Her Back to the Affair Partner?
Video icon Q&A How Do I Cast Down My Thoughts of Beating Up My Wife’s Affair Partner?
Video icon Q&A Is It Better to Ignore Him When He Is Trying to Reach Out and Connect or Should I Respond in Kind to Try to Maintain the Peace?
Video icon Q&A How Does the Addition of Domestic Violence Influence Affair Recovery?
Video icon Q&A Is He ‘Cured’ and Am I Now Safe?
Text icon Travel Plan: How to Create One and Why They're Worthwhile
Video icon Q&A How Do I Balance Guarding My Heart with Building Intimacy in EMS Online When My Mate Is Still Engaging His Affair Partner?
Video icon Q&A How Do We Safely and Respectfully Navigate Reconciliation, and Re-Integration to the Home, While Separated?
Video icon Q&A What Does the Betrayed Spouse Do When the Betrayer Just Won’t End the Affair and Shows Signs of Limerence?
Video icon Q&A Is It Alright for Me Not to Confront My Husband about Breaching the Contract?
Video icon Q&A What More Can I Do to Become Safe for Her and Rebuild Our Relationship?
Video icon Q&A Am I Wrong to Demand Him to Quit His Job for My Own Healing?
Video icon Q&A How Can I Remain Supportive and Loving While Also Protecting Myself?
Video icon Q&A Am I Wrong for Wanting to Know My Husband's Yellow-Light Behaviors?
Video icon Q&A How Can I Get My Husband to Understand the Importance of Boundaries?
Video icon Q&A Is It Appropriate to Abstain from Sex until Safety and Emotional Intimacy Have Been Established?
Video icon Q&A How Can I Get My Wife to Stop Seeing Her Affair Partner?