Safety in Recovery The hallmark of any healthy recovery is safety. Both spouses have to feel safe in order to rebuild a strong, new marriage from the ashes of the old one. Learn how to make your mate feel safe and why it is so important that you do. Must Reads more less Untransformed Pain will be Transmitted Q&A How Can I Begin to Heal Our Relationship? Telling Your Children After the Affair Doesn’t Always Turn Out As Expected The 2 Stages of Pain 20 Most Common Mistakes of the Hurt Spouse How do you respond to blackmail? Part II How to Survive Infidelity The Myth of the Greener Grass: Where Are You Investing? Why Did My Spouse Cheat? The Problem with Forgiveness Ending an Affair: Lock the Door Part 1 Rebuilding Trust After An Affair Bedside Forgiveness: When Death Coincides With Infidelity Dealing with Infidelity: How to Get You Mate to Cooperate (Without Being Controlling) Pimping Tenderness & Grooming Behaviors We Started Well, but... Recovery Timeline How Could You? Part I: Why We Commit Betrayal With Infidelity 1021 Resources Type Title Posted Q&A Why Won't My Mate Create a Safe Space for Me to Heal? 9/12/2018 Q&A Is It Dangerous to Examine Photos and Messages from the Affair Partner? 9/12/2018 Q&A Should We Separate If My Mate Refuses to Break Contact with the Affair Partner? 9/12/2018 Q&A Could This Lack of Safety Be Reason to End Our Relationship? 9/12/2018 Q&A What Should I Do about Physical Abuse? 9/12/2018 Q&A How Can We Move Forward in Healing with the Fear That I May Remember More Information about My Affair? 9/12/2018 Q&A Is There Hope for Recovery in This Type of Situation? 9/12/2018 Q&A How Long Should I Wait for Consistent Honesty? 8/29/2018 Q&A How Do I Handle My Mate's Lying? 8/29/2018 Q&A How Can I Help My Mate Create Safety in Our Recovery? 8/29/2018 Q&A How Do I Get beyond This? 8/29/2018 Q&A How Do I Deal with My Feelings towards the Affair Partner? 8/29/2018 Q&A Will Our Marriage Get Better? 8/29/2018 Ending an Affair: Lock the Door Part 2 8/29/2018 Q&A How Do I Deal with Working with My Spouse's Affair Partner? 8/22/2018 Q&A What Keeps My Betrayed Spouse from Acknowledging Her Lack of Safety in Our Relationship? 8/22/2018 Q&A How Can I Prove to My Mate I'm Telling the Truth? 8/22/2018 Q&A How Do We Protect Our Children During Recovery? 8/15/2018 Q&A Do You Think Privacy Has a Place in a Marriage? 8/15/2018 Q&A How Can We Heal Our Marriage and Create Safety with Family Members? 8/08/2018 Q&A Should I Cut Ties with Friends That Played a Role in My Mates Affair? 8/01/2018 Q&A Should I Be Concerned about My Mates Behavior Patterns? 8/01/2018 Q&A How Do We Cut Ties with People That Enable Destructive Patterns? 7/16/2018 Q&A How Do I Know If My Mate Truly Is Safe? 7/16/2018 Q&A What Do I Do about My Mean Unfaithful Spouse? 7/16/2018 Q&A How Can We Create Safety in Our Situation? 7/11/2018 Q&A Do You Think It Is Important to Confess Infidelity to Parents? 7/06/2018 Q&A Is This Another Form of Justification and Blame Shifting? 6/27/2018 Q&A How Long Should I Wait for My Mate to Come out of Limerence? 6/27/2018 Q&A How Can We Protect Our Safety Protocol While Traveling? 6/15/2018 Q&A Are There Boundaries That Need to Be Followed as an Accountability Partner? 6/15/2018 Looking for Safety: Harboring Hope 6/12/2018 Q&A Do You Have Additional Resources for Overcoming Gaslighting? 6/08/2018 Q&A How Am I Supposed to Interact with the Family Members That Helped Hide My Mates Affair? 6/08/2018 Q&A How Should I Handle My Husbands Relapse? 6/07/2018 Q&A Can Someone with Self-Awareness and Boundaries Still Relapse? 6/06/2018 Q&A My Betrayed Spouse Wants Me to Contact the Affair Partner. What Should I Do? 6/06/2018 Q&A My Mate Doesn't Believe I've Disclosed Everything, What Should I Do? 5/23/2018 Q&A What Should I Do If My Mates Recovery Isn't Consistent? 5/16/2018 Q&A What Do I Do about My Mother-In-Law? 5/16/2018 Q&A Should I Put My Running Shoes on and Get out Now? 5/09/2018 Q&A How Do I Communicate That If He Doesn't Get Help That It's Over? 5/09/2018 Q&A Is This a Sign of My Husband's Lack of Commitment? 5/09/2018 Q&A What Do I Do While Waiting for My Spouse to Be Safe? 5/09/2018 Q&A What Do I Say to Family Members That Would Like Me to File for Divorce? 5/07/2018 Q&A How Do I Deal with a Lack of Safety in Recovery? 5/07/2018 Q&A How Can I Set Safe Boundaries in Our Recovery? 5/07/2018 Q&A Is It Safe for Us to Move? 5/02/2018 Q&A Short of a Polygraph, Can I Trust That He's Telling Me the Truth? 5/02/2018 Q&A Is My Wife Addicted to Lying? 4/25/2018 Pages« first‹ previous…34567891011…next ›last »