Why They Did It

The lingering question that haunts almost everyone recovering from infidelity: Why? The unfaithful spouse may not know why just yet, but use these articles to gain insight and, eventually, freedom from the uncertainty.

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Video icon Q&A Do You Think Cheaters Are Just Morally Bankrupt?
Video icon Q&A Is My Mate Drawn towards Something Bad and Repulsed by Something Good?
Video icon Q&A Why Does the Unfaithful Compare Their Mate to the Affair Partner?
Video icon Q&A What Was My Unfaithful Mate Thinking?
Video icon Q&A Is It Unrealistic to Expect Answers to 'Why'?
Video icon Q&A Why Would They Not End an Affair Because of the Affair Partner's Feelings?
Video icon Q&A What is the Dynamic of the Relationship between Your Ex-Spouses and Their Affair Partners?
Video icon Q&A Do I Keep Moving towards Him in Hopes He Will Leave It All behind, Once and for All?
Video icon Q&A When Can We Focus on the Affair Rather Than Problems in the Marriage?
Video icon Q&A How Long Should I Expect Her to Show No Emotions towards Me and Our Marriage?
Video icon Q&A Are We Deluded about His Porn and Alcohol Use?
Video icon Q&A Can You Elaborate on What You Mean by the Unfaithful Partner Often Affairs Down?
Video icon Q&A Could Someone Really Think This?
Video icon Q&A Why Did My Mate Act Differently with the Affair Partner?
Video icon Q&A Did My Choices Contribute to the Affair?
Video icon Q&A How Do We Cope with Differing Marriage Histories?
Video icon Q&A How Do We Handle All of Life's Issues without Losing Focus of the Infidelity?
Video icon Q&A What's Your Take on an Unfaithful Wife Who Still Blames the Marriage for the Affair 1 Year from Discovery?
Video icon Q&A What Do I Do with a Spouse That Blames Me for the Affair?
Video icon Q&A Do We Revert Back to Our Old State Once the Threat Disappears?
Video icon Q&A Is It Common for People to Rationalize Behaviors Other Than Intercourse as 'Okay'?
Video icon Q&A Will My Fantasy Dreams End?
Video icon Q&A Once a Person Cheats, Are They More Likely to Cheat Again?
Video icon Q&A He Says I'm 50% Responsible for His Affair. Is That a Sign of Denial?
Video icon Q&A Aren’t Betrayal and Love Incompatible?
Video icon Q&A How Can I Heal from the Dishonor of His Sharing My Secrets with Her?
Video icon Q&A Why Does He Say He Wants to Save the Marriage?
Video icon Q&A How Do I Heal without the Details of My Wife's Affair?
Video icon Q&A Should I Continue Forward or Wait until He Wants to Recommit to Us?
Video icon Q&A How Will I Know If He Truly Is Happy?
Video icon Q&A What Does His Excuse for the Affairs Truly Mean?
Video icon Q&A What Do You Do When Ambivalence and Limerance Don't Cover It?
Video icon Q&A What Do You Mean By, "People with a Strong Moral Compass Are More Likely to Have an Affair"?
Video icon Q&A Where Was My Husband's Self Respect during the Affair?
Video icon Q&A If He Didn't Love His Affair Partner, Why Was He Planning Their Anniversary?
Video icon Q&A Is It Possible for Someone to Have a Long Term Affair without Emotional Attachment?
Video icon Q&A What Keeps Someone from Cheating?
Video icon Expert Q&A Preview: Why Did I Do This and How Do I Get out of This Pit?
Video icon Q&A How Can She Be So Kind Now after the Way She Treated Me Just a Year Ago?
Video icon Q&A Why Do You Say Oral Sex Is 'Always about Sex'?
Video icon Q&A How Can We Figure out What the Affair Was About?
Video icon Q&A Why Was He a Different Person in His Affairs? Why Can't He Be More Like That with Me?
Video icon Q&A Is This Normal Limerence or Is He a Love Addict?
Video icon Q&A How Will My Spouse See That I Never Loved My Affair Partner?
Video icon Expert Q&A Preview: How Can My Husband Overcome His Ambivalence?
Video icon Q&A Why Should I Stay in a Marriage That Wasn't So Great to Begin With?
Video icon Q&A Is It Normal for Affair Partners to Be Called a Boyfriend or Girlfriend?
Video icon Q&A Is It Normal for Him to Still Think about Her and Desire Her?
Video icon Q&A Do Neglectful Mothers Create Sons Who Become Emotionally Unavailable and Love Avoidant Men?
Video icon Q&A How Can Someone Hate Their Parent's Infidelity and Then Do It Themselves?