For The Hurt Spouse
There are many aspects in the recovery of the betrayed spouse that will look very different from the unfaithful spouse. These articles are written specifically for healing and to provide hope and encouragement for the hurt spouse.
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1196 Resources
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Video Q&A How Do I Handle My Healing and My Husband? 7/13/2021
Video Q&A Why Did My Husband Have Such a Seemingly Lame Affair? 7/13/2021
Video Q&A Is Location-Sharing and Access to Phones Recommended? 7/13/2021
Video Q&A How Do I Deal With His Advice without Feeling He Is Criticizing Me? 7/13/2021
Video Q&A How Can I Stop the Feeling That I Constantly Need to Check on My Wayward Spouse for Safety? 7/13/2021
Video Q&A How Best Do I Ask for This Information So That He Understands the Level of Transparency I Need to Feel Safe? 7/13/2021
Video Q&A How Do I Deal With the Physical Distance between Me and My Husband during Recovery? 7/13/2021
Video Q&A My Husband Wants to Know Why I Haven't Heard from a Betrayed Woman Who Is Still Married to Her Wayward Spouse? 7/13/2021
Video Q&A Do I Sell My House with My Unfaithful Spouse in It? 7/13/2021
Video Q&A Do I Let Go of My Attachment to Her Now or Wait until Our Courses Are Complete? 7/13/2021
Video Q&A Do You Have Any Insights into My Wayward Spouse's Line of Thinking? 7/08/2021
Video Q&A Where Do I Go from Here When My Spouse Is Mostly Defensive and Blame Shifting? 7/08/2021
Video Q&A How Do I Reconcile with the Affair Partner Who Is My Sister? 7/08/2021
Video Q&A Is It Okay to Ask to the the 40 Cost Assignment from EMS Weekend Again? 7/08/2021
Video Q&A How Can I Pretend Normal Around Family When Even Thoughts of Them Are Triggering and Intrusive? 6/17/2021
Video Q&A How Can I Move Forward While Convinced That He Is Still Lying to Me? 6/17/2021
Video Q&A How Can I Help Him Heal and Yet Remain Open and Honest with Him about the Facts and Not What His Feelings about the Facts Are? 6/17/2021
Video Q&A Should I Keep Pushing Him to Talk and Give Me Answers? 6/16/2021
Video Q&A What Are the Best Boundaries to Make When My Husband and I Are Having a Discussion about My Healing and He Starts to Get Really Angry? 6/16/2021
Video Q&A Do You Think I Should Send the Letter That I Wrote to My Husband's Affair Partner? 6/16/2021
Video Q&A When Is the Right Time for Confrontation and How Do I Tell Him I Know about the Affair? 6/16/2021
Video Q&A Is It Unreasonable Of Me to Ask Him to Get Tested Now? 6/16/2021
Video Q&A How Do I Help Him Understand That I Need to Know about All His Emotional Affairs? 6/16/2021
Video Q&A Should I Be Considering Any Restrictions on Her Access to Our Children If She Continues to Act Out? 6/16/2021
Video Q&A How Do I Get Over the Fact That My Wife Gave Her Affair Partner More Intense and Passionate Sex Than She Has Ever Given Me? 6/16/2021
Video Q&A How Do I Create a Safe Boundary for Myself While Showing Him Grace and Not Reject His Desire to Open up to Me and Reconnect? 6/16/2021
Video Q&A How Do I Find the Strength to Stay When It Means I Will Have to Be a Father to the Child of Her Betrayal? 6/16/2021
Video Q&A How Do I as the Betrayed Quit Hitting the Wrong Side of His Ambivalence? 6/16/2021
Video Q&A Are There Any Tips on How to Handle Someone Who Is Not Displaying Remorse, Is Full Of Anger and Pain, And Deeply Depressed? 6/16/2021
Video Q&A When Faced with Such a Painful Outcome as This, What Is a Spouse Able to Do Aside from Self-Care and Healing? 6/16/2021
Video Q&A How Do I Get past the Feeling That Our Marriage Is a Lie? 6/16/2021
Video Q&A Did He Only Quit Because He Got Caught? 6/16/2021
Video QQ&A Am I Wrong to Keep Demanding an Explanation about How the Affair Started Instead of Letting It Go? 6/16/2021
Video Q&A Why Would He Hire This Particular Escort? 6/16/2021
Video Q&A I Want Proof That His Affair Partner Has Been Contacted and Told That It Is 100% Over and He Will Never Contact Her Again. How Do I Go About This? 6/16/2021
Video Q&A Why Does My Husband, Who Says He Wants to Reconcile, Keep Bringing up All My Shortcomings? 6/16/2021
Video Q&A How Can I Tell If the Problem Isn’t My Mate, but Me? 6/03/2021
Text Mental Health and Parenting: How to Support Yourself and Your Kids 6/02/2021
Text How Couples Can Promote Good Mental Health During and After the COVID-19 Pandemic 5/26/2021
Video Q&A What Do I Do in the Meantime? 5/25/2021
Video Q&A What Are the Old Behaviors That I Should Seek to Avoid? 5/25/2021
Video Q&A Does Experimental Same Sex Acting Out Require Special Layers or Nuances to the Recovery Process? 5/25/2021
Text Hope Rising Conference 2021 Announcement: Words of Wisdom from Keynote Speaker Shauna Shanks 5/19/2021
Video Q&A How Can We Ever Build Trust? 5/12/2021
Video Q&A Should I Ask My Wife to Take Another Polygraph? 5/12/2021
Video Q&A How on Earth Do I Enforce Boundaries during This Time without Pushing Her Back to the Affair Partner? 4/29/2021
Video Q&A How Do I Decide What to Do? 4/29/2021
Video Q&A What Advice Do You Have For Telling My Spouse That I Know About Their Affair and Who the Affair Partner Is? 4/29/2021
Video Q&A How Do I Get Him to See My Perspective? 4/29/2021
Video Q&A Is It Possible That I’ll Have a Change of Heart Some Time Down the Road? 4/29/2021