Safety in Recovery The hallmark of any healthy recovery is safety. Both spouses have to feel safe in order to rebuild a strong, new marriage from the ashes of the old one. Learn how to make your mate feel safe and why it is so important that you do. Must Reads more less Discovery: Part 1 - How to Handle Discovery Affair Recovery Timeline for Healing After Betrayal How Could You? Part I: Why We Commit Betrayal With Infidelity Rebuilding Trust After An Affair How Long Does It Take to Recover From An Affair? Dealing with Infidelity: How to Get You Mate to Cooperate (Without Being Controlling) Untransformed Pain will be Transmitted Social Shame: Understanding the Paralysis of it Why Couples Fail After an Affair | Part 1 - Not Knowing What Happened Does Time Heal All Wounds? Healing After An Affair The Seven Mistakes Churches Make When Dealing With Infidelity Infidelity Counseling: How Effective Is It? 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A Crucial Question In Healing After An Affair How to Survive Infidelity 20 Most Common Mistakes of the Hurt Spouse 1081 Resources Type Title Posted Q&A Are the Requests I’m Making to Feel Safe Unreasonable? 10/23/2023 Q&A Is It Reasonable for Me to Feel Unsafe When My Wife Is around the Affair Partner without Me? 10/23/2023 Surviving Infidelity: 6 Things I Wish I'd Known 10/11/2023 Q&A Is Minimal Contact the Right Thing to Do at This Moment? 9/29/2023 Q&A Do I Have the Right to Know What My Spouse Is Doing to Monitor Me? 9/12/2023 Q&A What Is the Best Way to Set Boundaries in the Workplace? 8/15/2023 Q&A Are the Boundaries My Mate Has Placed on Our Conversations a Red Flag in Recovery? 8/15/2023 Discovery: Why Do I Want to Know? 6/14/2023 Discovery: Processing the Details of the Affair 6/07/2023 Coping with Infidelity: The 2 Stages of Pain 5/31/2023 Q&A Why Do I Still Respond Physically like I Am Lying When I’m Telling the Truth? 5/19/2023 Q&A Are Any Lasting Feelings for the Affair Partner Permitted? 5/19/2023 Q&A If There Is a Future for Our Marriage, Would You See the Journey to Be Any Different than Normal? 5/19/2023 Q&A Is It Necessary for Him to Be Proactive or Should I Be Happy He’s Doing What I Ask of Him? 4/12/2023 Discovery: Part 3 - Guidelines for Discovery 3/22/2023 Q&A How Do I Handle My Spouse’s Siblings? 3/17/2023 Discovery: Part 2 - Advice For The Wayward Spouse 3/15/2023 Q&A What Action Do You Recommend If My Mates Behavior Doesn’t Change? 3/02/2023 Q&A How Do I Handle My Mate Weaponizing Information That I’m Sharing with Them? 1/11/2023 Q&A Are My Boundaries for My Spouse Unreasonable? 1/11/2023 Q&A How Can We Get Anywhere If a Calm Conversation Can’t Happen about His Recovery or Betrayals? 12/06/2022 Q&A How Can My Spouse Work with the Affair Partner and Still Be Okay? 12/06/2022 Q&A Any Advice on How, When & Where It’s Best to Share Our Story? 11/03/2022 Q&A Am I Struggling Because I Still Feel Unsafe in Recovery? 10/13/2022 Q&A Is This an Appropriate Deal-Breaker? 8/26/2022 Q&A How Do I Keep My Boundaries Strong in a Place of Leadership? 7/07/2022 Q&A What Are the Signs I Should Run and Not Bother Wasting My Time or Emotions on Trying to Make My Marriage Work? 7/01/2022 Why Couples Fail After an Affair | Part 4 - Not Grieving the Loss 6/15/2022 Q&A How Do I Respond to the Betrayed’s Triggers When It’s Affecting My Mental Health Now? 6/14/2022 Q&A What Do I Do If My Spouse Works with Their Affair Partner? 5/24/2022 Q&A How Do You Make Your Partner Feel Understood, Trusted, like They Matter, and That It’s Ok to Make Mistakes, Without Enabling Bad Behavior? 5/24/2022 Are You Vulnerable to an Affair? Part II: Marital Vulnerability 5/18/2022 Q&A How Do I Continue Supporting Her While Taking Care of My Heart and Mental Health? 4/20/2022 Q&A Is It OK for the Wayward Spouse to Keep in Touch with Affair Partners from the past That Happened Years before Us? 4/20/2022 Q&A How Do I Move Forward Knowing That He Already Has The Mindset That This Could Happen Again? 4/08/2022 Q&A How Do We Move Forward after Several Relapses? 4/06/2022 Q&A How Should I Handle My Spouse Threatening to Harm Me? 3/10/2022 Q&A How Should I as a Wayward Spouse Approach My Spouse’s Continual Desire for Reassurance? 3/10/2022 Q&A How Do I Emotionally Connect with Someone Who Treats Me This Way? 3/10/2022 Q&A How Long Should I Accept and Validate His Exaggerated Reactions as a Result of My Previously Reckless Behaviors? 2/17/2022 Q&A Do You Agree It’s Necessary to Re-Establish No Contact? 2/17/2022 Q&A Should a Wayward Spouse Be Allowed to Have Friends of the Opposite Gender? 2/17/2022 Q&A How Can We Set Boundaries If They Keep Being Disregarded and Violated? 12/17/2021 Q&A How Much Should I Allow My Hurt Spouse to Vent and Control Conversations? 11/19/2021 Q&A How Do I Deal With This When I Cannot Reasonably Ask Her to Quit Working nor Can I Check In Frequently to Make Sure It's Not Happening Again? 8/17/2021 Q&A How Do I Handle Other Counselor’s ‘Okaying’ My Husband’s Continuation of His Rock-Concert Gigs? 8/17/2021 Q&A Should I Tell the Affair Partner’s Wife about the Affair? 8/17/2021 Q&A How Do My Spouse and I Get On the Same Level When It Comes to Appropriate Communication to His Affair Partner about Their Daughter? 8/02/2021 Q&A Is Location-Sharing and Access to Phones Recommended? 7/13/2021 Q&A How Can I Stop the Feeling That I Constantly Need to Check on My Wayward Spouse for Safety? 7/13/2021 Pages« first‹ previous123456789…next ›last »
