All Categories After a betrayal, your mind goes in 90 million directions all at once and you may not even know where to begin. Use the categories in the Recovery Library to discover what areas of recovery resonate with your struggle and find the specific guidance you need. Must Reads more less Infidelity Counseling: How Effective Is It? 20 Most Common Mistakes of the Hurt Spouse Ending an Affair: Lock the Door Part 1 Coping with Infidelity: The 2 Stages of Pain Ending an Affair - Step One: Make the Decision Discovery: Part 1 - How to Handle Discovery Social Shame: Understanding the Paralysis of it Healing After an Affair: How do I Address Unmanageability? The Seven Mistakes Churches Make When Dealing With Infidelity How Long Does It Take to Recover From An Affair? 31 Reasons to Stop an Affair: Part 1 Bedside Forgiveness: When Death Coincides With Infidelity The Power of Small Groups Why Couples Fail After an Affair | Part 1 - Not Knowing What Happened Does Time Heal All Wounds? Healing After An Affair The Problem with Forgiveness Untransformed Pain will be Transmitted How Could You? Part I: Why We Commit Betrayal With Infidelity How to Survive Infidelity Affair Recovery Timeline for Healing After Betrayal Why People Cheat: The Fog of Self-Deception (Part 1) 20 Most Common Mistakes of the Unfaithful Spouse Rebuilding Trust After An Affair Surviving Infidelity: What Do We Tell the Kids? Surviving Infidelity Part 1: What Do You Need to Know? Surviving Infidelity: The #1 Challenge to Recovery Pimping Tenderness & Grooming Behaviors Why Did My Spouse Cheat? A Crucial Question In Healing After An Affair Dealing with Infidelity: How to Get You Mate to Cooperate (Without Being Controlling) How Could You? Part IV - Doublespeak and Distorted Comparisons 5004 Resources Type Title Posted Rewriting the Story You Tell 7/30/2025 Q&A How Is Proper Closure with the Affair Partner Done in This Situation? 7/23/2025 Q&A How Do Others Cope with No Answers or Resolutions? 7/23/2025 Q&A After a Polygraph Is Done to Confirm the Couple Is at Ground Zero, What Should Each Partner Expect from the Other Going Forward? 7/23/2025 Q&A How Do You Recommend We Handle Interactions with the Affair Partner? 7/23/2025 Q&A How Does He Not Have Deep Residual Feelings for the Affair Partner? 7/23/2025 Q&A How Do We Dismantle the Wall Hindering My Wayward Spouse from Expressing Sorrow, Remorse, and Empathy? 7/23/2025 When Should You Stop Talking About the Affair? 7/23/2025 Q&A I Want My Mate to Apologize. Is It Okay to Tell Him the Things He Has Done That Have Hurt Me? 7/21/2025 Q&A Are My Requests for Relapse Prevention Measures Unreasonable? 7/21/2025 Q&A How Do I Protect My Own Boundaries While Navigating This Complex Relationship? 7/09/2025 Moving from Self-Hatred to Self-Compassion 7/09/2025 Q&A Can You Please Give Some Direction on the Various Courses and the Best Way to Go Through Them? 7/02/2025 Q&A What Would Put Me Back Into Integrity as a Betrayed Spouse? 7/02/2025 Q&A Why Is My Husband Blaming Me for His Affair? 7/02/2025 Q&A How Do I Talk About My Stupidity in a Redemptive Way, While I’m Still Struggling Through My Heart Change? 7/02/2025 Will I Ever Feel Chosen? 7/02/2025 Forgiving Yourself: A Healing Necessity for Both Spouses 6/25/2025 Q&A Am I Wrong for Wanting My Husband to Completely Separate from Anyone Complicit in His Affair? 6/18/2025 Q&A How Can I Forgive the Affair Partner When She Is Still Impacting My Life So Negatively? 6/18/2025 Q&A How Do I Respond If I Feel the Wayward Spouse Doesn’t Want to Be with Me? 6/18/2025 Movies & Infidelity: Why Hollywood Seems Obsessed with Sex & Secrets 6/18/2025 Q&A How Can I Get Past This Feeling of Never Being Her Choice When She Had Freedom to Choose? 6/12/2025 Q&A Do I Take Action Against the Affair Partner or Just Letting It Go? 6/12/2025 The Crucial Role of Disclosure in Healing (Survey) 6/11/2025 The Number One Question and How to Answer It 6/04/2025 Q&A How Do I Stop Hating the Affair Partner? 5/28/2025 Q&A What Advice Do You Have for Healing or Blending Two Different Attachment Styles? 5/28/2025 Q&A How Do I Heal from the Race of the Affair Partner Being a Trigger? 5/28/2025 Q&A Is There Any Hope That My Husband Will Change? 5/28/2025 The Brain’s Hidden Wound of Betrayal Trauma 5/28/2025 Who I Should (and Shouldn't) Tell About the Affair 5/21/2025 Q&A How Do I Stop Feeling Such Hatred Towards His Affair Partner? 5/14/2025 How Do I Know I Am Not “Plan B?” 5/14/2025 Grappling with Disappointment from an Affair 5/07/2025 Q&A What Are You Thoughts on Using Parental Control Apps to Create Safety and Rebuild Trust? 5/06/2025 Q&A How Can She Support the ED That Came from Her Betrayal, Instead of Waiting for It to Fix Itself? 5/06/2025 Q&A Do You Have Experience with BPD Affairs? 5/06/2025 Do’s & Don’ts of Emotional Flooding 4/30/2025 Q&A When Do I Throw in the Towel? 4/23/2025 Q&A As the Betrayed, Is It Wise to Seek Closure with the Affair Partner? 4/23/2025 Deciding to Stay: Practical Ways to Rebuild Safety 4/23/2025 Q&A How Do We Move past This Set-Back in Our Recovery? 4/16/2025 Q&A Why Do I Get Aroused Imagining the Sexual Acts My Wife Did with Her Affair Partner? 4/16/2025 The True Definition of Love and Its Role In Surviving An Affair 4/16/2025 Q&A How Long Will It Take for Him to Get Over His Feelings Towards Her and the Fantasy of the Affair? 4/09/2025 Q&A Do You Suggest He Focus On Healing Himself First, Then Our Marriage? 4/09/2025 Q&A How Do We Restore the Relationship with Our Adult Children? 4/09/2025 Q&A Is It Healthy for Me to Gather Evidence in Order to Move On from This? 4/09/2025 Q&A Is There a Way to Reconnect or Get Him to Engage Before Throwing 35 Years Away? 4/09/2025 Pages123456789…next ›last »
