Q&A Recovery Library Thousands of questions answered by infidelity expert Rick Reynolds, LCSW and other experts from one trusted source. Gain insights from professionals who not only have specialized in treating infidelity for decades but also have healed from infidelity personally. Must Reads more less Discovery: Part 1 - How to Handle Discovery Does Time Heal All Wounds? Healing After An Affair Why Couples Fail After an Affair | Part 1 - Not Knowing What Happened 31 Reasons to Stop an Affair: Part 1 Why People Cheat: The Fog of Self-Deception (Part 1) Untransformed Pain will be Transmitted Healing After an Affair: How do I Address Unmanageability? The Seven Mistakes Churches Make When Dealing With Infidelity Affair Recovery Timeline for Healing After Betrayal 20 Most Common Mistakes of the Hurt Spouse How Could You? 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Rebuilding Trust After An Affair Social Shame: Understanding the Paralysis of it Surviving Infidelity: The #1 Challenge to Recovery 3938 Resources Type Title Posted Q&A Can You Please Give Some Direction on the Various Courses and the Best Way to Go Through Them? 7/02/2025 Q&A What Would Put Me Back Into Integrity as a Betrayed Spouse? 7/02/2025 Q&A Why Is My Husband Blaming Me for His Affair? 7/02/2025 Q&A How Do I Talk About My Stupidity in a Redemptive Way, While I’m Still Struggling Through My Heart Change? 7/02/2025 Q&A Am I Wrong for Wanting My Husband to Completely Separate from Anyone Complicit in His Affair? 6/18/2025 Q&A How Can I Forgive the Affair Partner When She Is Still Impacting My Life So Negatively? 6/18/2025 Q&A How Do I Respond If I Feel the Wayward Spouse Doesn’t Want to Be with Me? 6/18/2025 Q&A How Can I Get Past This Feeling of Never Being Her Choice When She Had Freedom to Choose? 6/12/2025 Q&A Do I Take Action Against the Affair Partner or Just Letting It Go? 6/12/2025 Q&A How Do I Stop Hating the Affair Partner? 5/28/2025 Q&A What Advice Do You Have for Healing or Blending Two Different Attachment Styles? 5/28/2025 Q&A How Do I Heal from the Race of the Affair Partner Being a Trigger? 5/28/2025 Q&A Is There Any Hope That My Husband Will Change? 5/28/2025 Q&A How Do I Stop Feeling Such Hatred Towards His Affair Partner? 5/14/2025 Q&A What Are You Thoughts on Using Parental Control Apps to Create Safety and Rebuild Trust? 5/06/2025 Q&A How Can She Support the ED That Came from Her Betrayal, Instead of Waiting for It to Fix Itself? 5/06/2025 Q&A Do You Have Experience with BPD Affairs? 5/06/2025 Q&A When Do I Throw in the Towel? 4/23/2025 Q&A As the Betrayed, Is It Wise to Seek Closure with the Affair Partner? 4/23/2025 Q&A How Do We Move past This Set-Back in Our Recovery? 4/16/2025 Q&A Why Do I Get Aroused Imagining the Sexual Acts My Wife Did with Her Affair Partner? 4/16/2025 Q&A How Long Will It Take for Him to Get Over His Feelings Towards Her and the Fantasy of the Affair? 4/09/2025 Q&A Do You Suggest He Focus On Healing Himself First, Then Our Marriage? 4/09/2025 Q&A How Do We Restore the Relationship with Our Adult Children? 4/09/2025 Q&A Is It Healthy for Me to Gather Evidence in Order to Move On from This? 4/09/2025 Q&A Is There a Way to Reconnect or Get Him to Engage Before Throwing 35 Years Away? 4/09/2025 Q&A When My Mate Accuses Me of Being a Narcissist Are They Really Recognizing Traits Within Themselves? 4/09/2025 Q&A When Will the Abusive Language and Name-Calling from the Betrayed Spouse Stop? 4/02/2025 Q&A How Do I Know If My Spouse Really Shut the Door on the Affair Partner? 4/02/2025 Q&A What Do I Look for to Know the Affair Isn’t Still Happening? 4/02/2025 Q&A When Will My Efforts Be Enough for My Spouse? 4/02/2025 Q&A How Should I Respond When He Shares Lies with Me, Especially If I Perceive He Is Sugar-Coating the Truth? 4/01/2025 Q&A How Do I Find a Way to Show Compassion or Empathy When I Find Myself Empty of It in the Moment? 4/01/2025 Q&A Can You Shed Light on Pass/Fail Outcomes and Eye-Scan Polygraph Tests? 4/01/2025 Q&A Can I Forgive My Husband for Abandonment? 4/01/2025 Q&A How Can We Best Deal With This Hurtful Possibility and Begin to Heal from It? 4/01/2025 Q&A What Advice Do You Have for Apologizing to the Affair Partner’s Spouse? 3/26/2025 Q&A What Advice Do You Have for Journaling as a Betrayed Spouse? 3/26/2025 Q&A How Could He Possibly Call What He Had with the Affair Partner ‘Love'? 3/26/2025 Q&A Can You Give Me Insight on What Therapy Modalities Would Be Best for Me? 3/11/2025 Q&A Do You Recommend We Continue Living Separately During Recovery? 3/11/2025 Q&A Who Falls in True Love with an Affair Partner? 3/11/2025 Q&A How Much of This Developmental Trauma Contributed to Me Having an Affair in Adulthood? 2/25/2025 Q&A Why Can’t My Husband See the Affair Partner Through a Negative Lens? 2/25/2025 Q&A Does It Matter Who Ended the Affair? 2/25/2025 Q&A Can the Wayward Spouse Really Have No Triggers? 2/18/2025 Q&A Please Help Me Understand What My Reality Is as We Try to Recover from This. 2/11/2025 Q&A Will the Sadness and Intrusive Thoughts Ever Stop? 2/11/2025 Q&A How Do I Tell the Wayward Spouse I Need More Discussion to Heal and Process? 2/11/2025 Q&A How Do We Create Safety When My Husband Had an Emotional Affair with a Coworker for Approximately 7 Years? 2/11/2025 Pages123456789…next ›last »